Resilience is born with every step taken by
the black sheep against the tide.
healing & education for rebels & cyclebreakers
I have always felt a little out of place, a little “too much,” always pushing against the grain. I have ruffled my share of feathers and burnt my share of bridges. Forever the black sheep, I always felt alone in that. In my healing journey, I have discovered quite the contrary-we, the black sheep, are everywhere. Further, connection and community mean survival and healing. My decision to become a therapist, coach, and educator is born of the desire to help other black sheep find hope, belonging, and healing together.
This is a home for the black sheep of the world,
for anyone who has felt out of place or been intentionally marginalized. For those determined rebels and courageous cyclebreakers who dare to want something more than our current systems allow. My hope is that you find community, healing, and belonging here.
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate (LMFTA), with an additional master’s in Education, specializing in relational, trauma, and sex therapy. My work focuses on:
Neurodivergence
Gender & Sexuality
Disability & Chronic Illness
Fat Liberation & Eating Disorders
Domestic Violence, Sexual Abuse, & Trauma Recovery
With a passion for inclusive, liberation-focused care, I offer:
Relational & Individual therapy
Sex & Trauma-informed coaching
Community Healing opportunities
Educational workshops & professional trainings
If you’re ready to reclaim your story and build a life rooted in connection, welcome. You’ve found your people.
How I can support you:
I offer:
Therapy
For participants in Washington State ONLY
Relational Therapy
Couples (including ethically non-monogamous polycules)
Families (teen or adult child/parent, siblings, etc.)
Note that I do not see anyone under the age of 13.
Friends
Neurodivergent Relationships
Queer/Trans Relationships
Kinky Relationships
Sex Therapy
Gender/Sexuality
Kink/BDSM
Sex Work
Consent
Body liberation, pleasure, & self love
Sexual exploration
Sexual communication
Sex & Disability/Chronic Illness
Sex & Neurodivergence
Sex & Body Transitions (i.e. HRT, menopause, surgery, weight fluctuations, etc.)
Desire/arousal discrepancies
Recovery from purity culture & sexual shame
Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB)
Harmful masculinity
Sexual Trauma/Abuse/Assault
Trauma Therapy
Complex, chronic, childhood, intergenerational, and systemic traumas
Eating Disorders (primarily with folx in larger bodies)
Religious Trauma & healing from High-Control Groups (cults)
Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)
Self-harm/suicidality
Coaching
For anyone regardless of location
Coaching is less diagnosis-focused, more directive, and action-oriented. With a base in holistic care and liberation-based healing practices, coaching is for participants who are ready to grow and make the changes they desire in life. Although trauma and the past deeply inform our work, coaching is future-focused and about creating the life you want and the person you dream of becoming.
Coaching is available for any of the topics, identities, or experiences listed above.
Opportunities to Heal in Community
Groups
60 min groups run for 8 week sessions
Current Group Offerings:
Fat Liberation & Eating Disorder Recovery
Showing Up: Parents of Queer/Trans &/or Neurodivergent Kiddos
Queer & Trans Survivors of Domestic Violence/IPV/Sexual Abuse
Purity Culture Drop-outs: Healing from Sexual Shame
Grief to Liberation Café*
(*Free for community organizers, activists, & BIPOC;
50% of proceeds donated to humanitarian organizations on the ground in Sudan, Congo, and Palestine)
Community Workshops & Events
Our first workshops & community events are coming soon! Stay tuned!
Education
Workshops and trainings available on the following or related topics:
Sex Education:
Basic, inclusive, sex-positive, sex ed
Consent & Sexual Communication
Gender/Sexuality
Intro to Kink/BDSM
Body Liberation & Self-Compassion
Sex & Disability/Chronic Illness/Neurodivergence
Fat Sex
Mental Health:
Eating Disorders & Diet Culture
Fat Liberation
Supporting Loved Ones with Eating Disorders
Gender/Sexuality & Safe Space trainings
Reparenting Wounded Inner Children & Secure Attachment Parenting
Neurodivergence
Learning & Practicing Identity-affirming Language
Building Bridges: The Art of Repairing Relationships
Workshops & trainings can be modified for any of the following individuals or groups:
Individuals wanting to learn more
Teens & Families
Adults with Disabilities
Workplace trainings & professional development
Community workshops
Mental health organizations or agencies
Medical facilities
Schools
Collaborations with other practitioners of healing or education!
Reach out if you’d like to work together!
Meet Mar
Identities that impact our work together:
White settler on Dxʷdəwʔabš (Duwamish) land
Mixed European ancestry
2 graduate degrees and the privilege of learning from many teachers both formal and informal
Queer
Non-binary and use they/them pronouns
Neurodivergent
Fat
Disabled and chronically ill
From the lower class
Late 30s
Raised Catholic and consider myself a spiritual, nature-based, agnostic these days
We are deeply affected by our relationships with others. The multiple levels of systems that we exist and participate in provide rich context for our lives and impact our thoughts and beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. Fundamentally, our “symptoms” and trauma develop as natural consequences of the white supremacist, patriarchal, colonialist, and capitalist systems we are trapped within. We were not made to live this way and we don’t have to. Healing lies in restoring agency, caring and resisting in community, creating new narratives, and in learning to repair and balance one’s relationships.